Well, a person's attitude, what they are thinking about, DOES come across in a photo. I had headshots taken professionally, and the only one i liked, i remembered i was thinking about kissing a particular guy! Have you ever noticed on tv shows, when they are photographing a model, the photographer is telling her, "yes that's it; oh you're beautiful, baby; make me want you!" And such suggestive remarks? Its to get her to react, to show emotions to the camera. You probably showed the emotion, "i know you dont want me" and then "proved" it. keep getting that nice hair cut. Do you smile when you see yourself in the mirror? It took me a long time to get to that point with myself. It just means other people didnt smile at you when you were a baby and you took on their expression, whatever it was. Now you have to work harder to change it to something pleasant. But it is definitely possible, and no it doesnt mean something is wrong with you. You're a diamond in the rough. You just need some polishing. That is the case with many young people.