I usually don't see clients before or after me. Last Tuesday when I got there, a couple of kids had their things on every chair in the waiting room, and they were sitting on the couch, engrossed in a computer device. I said-uh, can I sit down somewhere? One of the kids was very polite, said "I'm sorry, ma'am", and moved stuff off the chair closest to me.

Soon after my T and her client came out. The woman asked me if the kids were behaving. I told her what I posted above. She then said to the kids: "Say good-bye to Miss____", and they did. My T seemed to know them pretty well. Then I went in to have my session.

T and I talked about how that would have bothered me a LOT if it happened a couple of years ago. Once I got really upset when she commented on her next client's haircut, in front of me. But this time I was okay with her paying attention to this other client and her kids. T thought that was progress. I told her about the other woman with a child I didn't mind seeing some months ago.

I told T that I like seeing that other clients like her too. What I probably meant was that I also like, or can tolerate, HER liking other clients. I'm not so jealous as I used to be. It validates what a special person and T she is, and that she genuinely likes her other clients, and they like her too.

I'm glad I don't always have to interact or see my T's other clients, but this showed to me and my T that I'm making progress regarding my attachment to her.