Hi Wannalyn - Sounds like you're feeling overloaded at the thought of having more expenses and responsibilities associated with having additional young people move into your home, at a time when your own financial situation is uncertain. Does he have somewhere to stay if he does move back to the home town? Are there more options to consider? What are his employment prospects either in the home town, or in your current location? Why do you think of this as "abandoning" him? What does he think? How old are the 2 sons?