
Jan 05, 2014, 06:28 PM
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Originally Posted by Harmacy
I don't think you're being excessively needy but just thinking about what you mean to this person.
What I've found helpful is, instead of focusing on imagining what you think you mean to them, flip it around and ask yourself what they mean to you. If you value the friendship and want to stay connected then just keep the lines of communication open for now with an occasional text or call to let them know that you're thinking of them. Things change and people she's close to now may fall away and she will remember that you're still there for her.
It's difficult sometimes. I'm getting better at it now, at standing back in friendships when I feel like the other person wants space and finding that eventually things come back on track if its a valuable friendship from both sides. I've done the opposite many times and felt hurt and rejected and looking back, my negative beliefs about what I imagined the other person was thinking have damaged friendships and I wish I'd just stepped back and concentrated on the positive things I felt about them.
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Thanks for your response. Perhaps she's just been to overwhelmed with all of her issues lately to think about contacting me. Another friend of mine who has met her before thinks that she might be jealous of me and has told me that she seems like she always has to be first, like a princess.
This friend is older and wiser, and I have a bad feeling that she might be right about my bff being jealous of me. Also, another work friend told me the same thing. The other friend told me that while my bff has to fight for everything that she has most of the time, I don't really have to do that. Well, that's NOT 100% true. I have my OWN struggles too.
My relationship isn't perfect, and I too am struggling with finances to a certain degree as well as body image issues, my mental health & family issues, etc...
I guess that all I can really do for now is to just give her some space and let her get back to me when she's ready to. Hopefully both my friends are wrong about her being jealous of me. Only time will tell for sure if she is or not.
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