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Originally Posted by leeshygurl
by going out and not returning home for days at a time, no real answers as to why he didnt come home or show any remorse for puttin me thru that, by never telling me how he feels about me, when we argue he points out all the things he doesnt like about me, it wouldnt feel so bad if once in a while he told me the things he does love!
iv tried tellin him how that hurts me, and how it makes me feel like he doesnt care! when im crying instead of comfort i get called names and laughed at or if im explainin why i feel hurt he falls asleep n tells me to go to a diff room bcos my cryin is annoying him!
after all that comes the gestures
then after all that
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Does sound like this break you are having with him, is much needed. Those gestures could be part of his fear of him losing you, after poor behavior. No one can survive in a relationship where a partner is nitpicking and hyper critical. Disappearing for days on end, is also not conducive to a good relationship.
Even after expressing your hurts, and he's not taking the steps necessary to change behavior, instead just doing those peace offering acts, anyone would feel hurt and confused.
Is couples counseling an option, or are you taking this time, to decide if this is something you want to continue?