I don't have much more words of wisdom, but I do get how you must be feeling. I've been in a relationship, and marriage for many years, and started to force myself to become more independent when it was impossible to contact the person I became so dependent on (my h), I relied on him for everything. NOT healthy. But being depressed can make us clingy and needy, and going through a breakup is heart wrenching when suffering with this.

The only thing I can think of, is to build up your own community of friends if you haven't, and try not to "pick at old wounds" as said above. I made the mistake of doing just that the last 4 months, and relying on someone who isn't sure what they want is not the answer. Its soooo hard, I'm sorry, I do feel the pain of it, when I remember I wake up alone too. It isn't always a bad thing, though, there are good things about having your own space, time to reflect on what you really want as well. I hope you have a few good girl friends and keep them close, and hopefully a therapist?