Why does your family want to bring up stuff that happened >20 years ago?? Sounds to me like THEY need to get over it.

I do know what you mean about memory gaps.....I don't really want to be told about what I did during my manic episodes. I do forget a lot after one of those, and it's a mercy. If I ask, then I want to know, but if I don't, it's because some part of me knows it on some level and I can't deal with it.