You seem to be deliberatly missing the point hun. No amount of understanding his pathology will make him treat you better. He abuses and cheats because he can.

Like I said, don't fix it if it ain't broke.

Buut live in denial if that's what works for you.

Instead of wasting your precious therapy time and money on discussing how to modify your actions to minimize abuse, why not use the time constructively and figure out why you are so hell bent on staying with a man that mistreats you.