Believe me I am not making assumptions - I am with someone who has NPD - I feel empathy I want to help I don't love him any the less - but our relationship would be so much easier for me and for him if I could understand why he behaves as he does. I am not blaming or pointing fingers at any one and of course I know everyone is individual but as I've said in previous post there are specific traits to being NPD and I am just trying to find out as much as I can - I am not judging at all.