You could talk to your T and ask for a referral. You can talk to him about EMDR and whether he thinks it would be useful for you. Or, you could look for a new T who doesn't do EMDR. I also wonder why you are specifically looking for a T who does EMDR. I've done it, and it can be successful, but there are many other kinds of therapy that can help, too. You can find a T who is not like "talking to the wall"; there are many!!

I don't think you should stay with a T whose methods you don't like.