Hello. I am needing to ask a question for those with mental illnesses, like me. Do you feel like the people in your life, such as a significant other, need to be your "caretaker"? Is that the type of relationship you have with your SO? Why do people automatically assume my husband is my caretaker? Do I need a caretaker? My husband has taken care of his mother his entire life, and the last thing he needs in his life right now is a wife that he needs to take care of. I have asked him, do you think you have to be my caretaker? and he says no. I want to keep it that way. Yes I have some pretty significant MIs such as borderline and schizoaffective. But I keep them in check when possible, and when not, I seek help from my T or go inpatient or outpatient programs. My husband is not my sole care team. I guess because I have so much support from T that he does not need to be my only source of help. I do not need a caretaker. Does that mean I am high functioning? Because I still cannot hold a job. I go to college full time though. Do I just not fit in anywhere? Am I not like the rest of you?