You can have a bf or gf and not love yourself, it's true. Tho all it will probably grant you is a dysfunctional relationship, full of strife, a dash of codependeny, jealousy, and most likely not treating each other very respectfully when the going gets tough, and it always does get tough at times.

To have a healthy, long lasting, fulfilling, loving relationship it does take self love. It takes healthy people to create a healthy relationship, or a least two people who are working on their emotional health.

Some people may be able to make it work without it, with a lot of effort. But why not work on those things before hand, while it's less complicated rather than after you secure a relationship when it will be even harder?

If you find this advise unhelpful, feel free to pass over it. No need to respond to me if not.

Perhaps you are just more or less needing to rant and not really seeking advice? That's fine as well.