It's a little walking the line with being FB friends with his wife and child, but that can be done within certain boundaries. Partying with the T and his family doesn't seem ethical. What's interesting here is that this T seems to have some very strict boundaries around what would be normal and sometimes necessary contact out of sessions (phone or email - at least in case of emergency) but does not mind crossing more personal, unnecessary boundaries. I am surprised. I also feel angry, because I got hurt having a closer relationship with someone close to me T, but the situation was just difficult to avoid. It's not (or should not be) difficult for a T just not to invite a client to his family Christmas party. Then again, this is my experience. If this works for her, great for her!
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Originally Posted by rainbow8
I'm wondering what any of you think of this scenario. I have a friend whose T seems to have interesting boundaries. He invited her and her H, along with some other clients, to a Christmas party at his home, with his extended family there, of course. She and her H attended and had a good time. My friend is now FB friends with her T's wife and one of his children. She says this arrangement works for her.
I met her T briefly. He's very outgoing and warm. He also does group therapy in his home. She's seen him for a few years and has made a lot of progress--says he's wonderful. I think he has strict boundaries in other ways; she doesn't contact him by phone or email out of session, for example. She's not obsessed with him, either. I have to admit I'm jealous of her situation. It's unusual, isn't it, for a T to have this kind of arrangement with clients?
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