The last extended conversation we had was a couple of days ago. I ended up ending the call, because he was getting so angry. His new friend that he met in that class will call him then not talk much. She doesn't even respond to direct questions sometimes. He doesn't understand why. I know she had a break down recently - lost her job and her new relationship and was hospitalized - so I've speculated that she wants contact with someone but isn't up to all the niceties of human interaction.

So we've had that conversation several times now. My son: "Why does she ... [blah blah blah]?" Me: "Maybe she ... [blah blah blah]." During that last conversation, he says, "But I heard her speak to her roommates, and she sounds normal enough when she talks to them. Why does she act so odd when she talks to me?" He suggested I might want to revise my answer.

I finally just got tired of it. I can speculate until the cows come home on the motivations of a person I don't even know, but how the h-e-l-l can I really know why the lady's acting strangely? I pretty much said that - without the swear word. I don't know why my son thinks I know things I can't possibly know for sure. I suggested he ask her why she does it. He wondered if that wouldn't be a rude question, which of course it would be, but other than that I don't know how to find out for sure why she calls him up then doesn't say anything even would asked a direct question.

So at that point he went into a rant saying that everything he does is wrong and it's all his fault and etc., etc., etc. That's when I told him I had to go and ended the call.

I'm sorry this woman is so difficult to talk to, but frankly so is he. There have been long stretches of time when conversations with him were just as puzzling to me. If it makes him uncomfortable, he should just stop taking her calls. And he should stop asking me why she does it, because I don't know.

And we've had very little contact since that conversation. Not none. He did call/text a few times to talk about the iphone he just ordered. And a football game he watched. But it's much less than normal. Maybe I'm making a mountain out of a molehill?