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Originally Posted by Shy Introvert
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You sound a lot like me. I just read your profile and I'm also sensitive and I tend to worry a lot too. I also have similar issues. Anyways, perhaps these people are just flakes? Also, maybe they are to busy to hang out, so instead of being honest with you, they just offer you a bunch of lame excuses as to not hurt your feelings.
Also, when you come across as to eager to hang out, they might think that you're desperate for friends and back off. I'm not saying that's what you're doing, but if you contact someone more than once in a row, you might come across as needy. Let them be the one to contact you after the first email or call. If they don't, then move on.
Not everyone will like you no matter how nice you are. Sometimes some people don't click personally for whatever reason. Try not to take rejection personally and don't let a few rejections turn you into a recluse. There is this group called meetup.com that you should join as even I was able to meet a few people on there that I ended up becoming friends with. I'm shy and introverted, so if I can meet people on there, so can you!
It's a numbers game, and sometimes you just have to put yourself out there. Keep social interaction light at first. If you start talking about serious matters and your problems to soon, most people will not want to hang out with you. I learned about that the hard way. Take your time in getting to know people. Talk about common interests like school, movies, music, books, etc...
Avoid controversial topics or talking about other people as much as possible. Don't make jokes that can be taken out of context until you get to know people better. Ask people more questions about themselves. Watch body language to see if they are being honest or not. Closed body language is a sign of disinterest or shyness. Watch yours too. I hope that this helped!
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Thank you, yes I agree either they are flakes or they are too polite to be honest so they take the easier route. Yeah I have and decided even more to back off on trying to contact other people to hang out, it is possible I accidently became needy in other people's eyes but then if I go long periods with out contacting anyone, no one seems to care at all about me, it's like I could literally vanish and no one would even care or notice. So yeah, I'll continue to every so often contact someone once from now on and then after that the ball is in their court. Thank you, I'll give that site a try!
