To be honest sweety, both reasons arent really reasons at all, unless i am not understanding your post. Actually it has been proven that most SI cases, including myself, arent self injuring for attention. It has taken me years to perfect this form of mutilation however I do it perfectly enough for people to not know and see me in a bathing suit. Thats not really the point though, Self injuries dont always want attention, in fact thats why alot of us keep it a secert, we dont want attention. We dont want people to know we hurt ourselves, how little we think of ourselves. Though thinking we want attention, i must admit, is a common misconception. As for the people who want to be disabled im not sure about that, i have never heard of that. hmm..well i dont see why anyone would want to be disabled...Self Injury is like any harmful addiction. It is a painfiul cycle in our lives that does not go away fully. I cannot speak for anyone but myself, I know i cant give up SI cold turkey, even though i want to, it kills me my BF is afraid to have an intimate relationship with because he is afraid of what he might see. I hurts me when i have to recover myself after i do it. If i wanted attention i would TRY and cut myself in public, waiting for someone to stop me. Most people do it within closed doors, by themselves, and hide it as best they can. I dont want to live this life of lying to my bf whether or not i did it. I dont want to accept the fact i will never wear a bikini, I dont want to accept the fact that i will never ever be comfortable naked ever again because whether or not anyone sees those scars, I will. And that is the price I pay. As for reasons, there are many individual reasons, not so much a common reason. Yes self hatred could be one, dealing with surpressed emotions like rage, sadness. The inability to cope with change, with their environment. Id suggest googling Self Injury. I did that at one point in time. I found great stuff...including the address for this website, so it cant be that bad. There are so many websites that give education on Self injury i suggest you look at them.. That way the more you share these websites at google the more education you can spread. That way people dont get confused about the real reasons why people Self Injure. Good luck, and take care, pm me if you have any questions or just need advice or someone to talk to.
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