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Originally Posted by lizardlady
my "stuff" thread was getting rather old. I thought in honor of the new year I'd start a new thread....
some of the old "stuff" is still going on, but I'm going to set that aside right now.
I'm frustrated with myself. A friend came to visit over the holidays. Her plans got changed, so our plans were changed, but she did come for a visit. I was not happy about the change, but rolled with it. I enjoyed having her here for the week. At the same time there were things I wanted to get done while I was off work. All she wanted to do was sit and read. I got frustrated with that. I finally just started doing the stuff around the house while she read. I was also struggling with having my daily routine disrupted.
She went home yesterday and I'm in a tailspin. I'm so danged lonely. Normally I love my solitude here on the farm. Now I'm feeling isolated and hating it. It's like I want something more in life but I have no idea what that is. Color me confused and frustrated.....
Folks, what I probably need is a good swift kick in the backside to stop feeling sorry for myself. I sure could use some hugs though.
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my opinion you dont need a kick in the backside....it is ok to recognize how you are feeling and sit with that feeling, in other words allow yourself time to feel whatever and how ever you are feeling in the present moment.
Ive had friends do this too. At first I felt lonely, disregarded, taken for granted...but then I asked my friend if she had a good time...I discovered for my friend sitting around reading was a welcome change to her normal routine of having to be busy and up to other peoples standards, helping others and much more..I discovered some people take the word vacation literally where they do something they would not otherwise do at home when on vacation.
now that I know this friend likes to read during her down time, I plan activities that include reading....
hey I need to go to the library would you like to come and look around while I do some things?
I found this really neat movie, its based on the book.....have you ever read that book, I wonder how the movie compares to the book?
I need to get some dishes done but I would also like to hear about the book you are reading. want to keep me company and we can talk about the book?
what to play "book" scrabble? its a game I made up where you use scrabble tiles and board but all the words have to be characters from a book or movie. (this never fails to generate conversation and fun)
when planning things to do when company is visiting over the holidays I always take into consideration what their plans, preferences are like this even if I have to be creative in order to bring their activities in line with mine, so that we all have a better vacation/visit....