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Originally Posted by Big Mama
You are such a good dad. Your boys are so lucky to have you. I can't imagine what there future would be like if you didn;t do the things you do and care so much.
I understand about you being a peace keeper and giving your ex wife money. It stinks, it is not fair, but you do what you gotta do to keep the peace. You may very well be required by law to give her something anyway. It is better to just give it to her that way she can never say " I didn't receive any support" and you end up having to pay later on down the road. It's not fair and not right but I am glad you are willing to do what is right anyway. It is an extra big sign of good character that you are providing with her with what you may not be required to.
You boys are so lucky and when they grow up and for there own opinions I hope they appreciate all you have done for them. I am sure they will.
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I know that as many others have said though the way she's played her cards (badly) she may well end up being the one to owe or at least it might be that she deserves $0. She cannot base her income on what she makes now, as She has made for over ten yrs previously, up to $15 or so an hour full time. Regular and professional work. NC would impute income based on what she's capable of and that would hinder her ability to get much anyway. This could also hinge on how much time she sees them. In this area she's messed up by leaving the state and willingly leaving them with me. She can spout of all she wants trying to make me look bad now but by the fact that she willingly left me with them is an admission that I am fit in her mind to take care of her kids. Leaving the state, not seeing them could be deemed as abandonment. As for alimony, or as they call it here, spousal support, it would hinge on her ability to make a decent living. Again, 1. they could impute her ability to work based on her professional past and 2. co habitating with a boyfriend or the opposite sex that one has a relationship with is something that typically will cancel out the validity of a support claim.
She gets money from me and I'm wondering if this may be a hindrance not to her but to me. I'm guessing a lawyer is goign to tell me to stop paying her until I get a court order.
anyway all of this costs money and that's the only show stopper or I'd do it right now.