We live in a much more open minded world then we did 20+ years ago. I too do not like sex (the physical act kind of repulses me) and I think some of it stems from my very conservative up bringing. I have a hard time associating sex as objectification. My rational mind knows that sexual intimacy can be very good way of affirming your partner but because my mother in particular shamed for the one or two times as a teen age boy I was found with images of women (one time a picture from a Playboy and a couple of times with Victoria Secret pages) and embarrassed me beyond words when I had a girl in my bedroom whom I was so naive didn't know she was flirting with me. The doors were open but we were upstairs and "All teenagers are out to have sex." speech I think traumatized me some.

I didn't lose my virginity until I was 20 and it was with someone who I didn't know saw me that way. I was inexperienced with sexual attraction, had been drinking and she kind of seduced me into doing something that my very conservative background told me I shouldn't have done. I rejected her advances for a month or so and tried to avoid close and personal interactions with her (hard to do since I was a live in care taker of her 5 year old son) but I had a night of weakness and lost my virginity. It was complicated by the fact that she was in an off again on again relationship with the husband she was separated from. So I felt I helped a woman have an affair.

I am also bi-polar and during periods of depression I tend to not feel like being intimate with my wife. I feel guilty about it because I fear she will feel unattractive or worse that I am meeting my sexual needs elsewhere, which I would never do because of my over compensation of my childhood and the whole objectification thing. But I tend to be hyposexual (not sexually interested) most times and right now being hypomanic I am dealing with hyper sexuality and I am afraid this new found sexual appetite will confuse her because my sexual appetite is very high. The internal struggle to not make her feel like a tool to satisfy my physical desire for sexual release makes me want to sneak away and watch porn which then makes me feel like a perv because of shame issues. Again my rational mind knows sex is a biological function and as long as it doesn't consume my life and detrimentally affect my relationships it is normal.

I guess the short of it is, we are becoming more aware of the complexities of sexuality and how it shouldn't be pigeon holed into a category of "acceptable", that is to say whether you have a more intense sexual appetite or don't have one at all. Whether you want to have a partner of the opposite sex or the same or not entirely sure or want to experiment it is fine as long as you and the people you are with are okay with that. Don't put to much pressure on yourself because it will compound your feelings and make it harder to better understand what you really want.

Lastly, surround yourself with people who can accept that you are not, at this point in your life, and you may never have an interest in physical intimacy. There is no need to go any further then to be honest and share enough for people to try to understand. Like some others have said many people will validate your position. There will be some who don't but that will happen no matter what you are talking about, whether you like sex or liver and onions. You may get "Cool, I don't understand it, but cool." to "You don't know what you are missing." to "Dude what is wrong with you." to "Freak." But more then likely people will fall into the prior few areas then the latter and the ones that do have an issue with it are not evolved or immature and not worth your time.

I hope you find YOUR place of comfort about sex and/or the lack there of. Not having sex isn't hurting anyone so if you are good with that then that is all that matters.