Sexual preoccupation can be a very complicated thing. Sometimes it is overt. Conscious and conspicuous sexual things, like joking about it a lot, watching porn, finding yourself thinking about various person in commercials, TV shows, movies arousing all the time. Then there is covert or suppressed sexual preoccupation. The over compensation by not objectifying persons as sex objects, having difficulty interacting with person you may find arousing because you are concerned it would be inappropriate. Feeling guilt or shame for sexual arousal. It can be conscious and obvious or hidden and compensatory. In truth most of us have some degree of sexual preoccupation and it becoming more and more prevalent in due to the sexual nature of media.