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Originally Posted by RTerroni
For instance what if we met and a concert and were both fans of the band(s) playing.
I have also (and I don't think I have said this before) that there may be some intimate gatherings (that often last several days) where I believe that extended contact is even appropriate (since like I have said before I would not see the person as my Therapist whatsoever in that situation as it is completely put to the side in favor of the gathering at hand).
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But the fact is that that person IS your T no matter where you see him or her. I understand what you would like it to be, but it really can't. Yes, when I saw my T at a function, I may mention the speaker or the food, but very briefly. It wouldn't be appropriate to talk a long time about the gathering at hand, while the person is your T. Even when I wasn't seeing my T anymore, and I actually sat next to her at a dinner, our conversation was neutral because she is not going to switch from being my past T to being my friend. The boundaries are there for a reason, and should be there even though you may share an interest with your T.
Maybe, if I saw my T at an art show, we would talk about a painting for a while. Maybe. I don't think that will ever happen, but it could. Still, it would brief because she's my T, no matter where I see her. I know you may want it to be differently, and you feel strongly about it; that's why it's so important to discuss this with your new T.
