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Originally Posted by RTerroni
Honestly unless you have actually been to one you really can't see how it is like, especially if it is something that you are there to embrace an alternative lifestyle that you may both have.
I know I am way over-thinking things but that is what I do. In fact to drop another bombshell if you are both going to the same intimate gathering and you don't have anyone else you are going with (or are planning on meeting people at the gathering) I even think that it is appropriate to go to the gathering together as long as you don't overstep any boundaries (at least what I think are boundaries), such as spend the night at a hotel along the way or even visit public places that might be along the way. I think I am getting everything out now but I think that here is the appropriate place to do it.
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The hotel scenario would be way beyond appropriate boundaries. It kind of baffles me that you would consider that okay. I know you aren't talking about sex. That's not the point. You have a professional relationship with a therapist which supersedes any personal relationship. It's kind of like the old idea that doctors shouldn't treat family members and close friends.
My 2nd therapist happened to be the pastor of my church. From the point he started to work with me in that capacity, the boundaries had to change. That didn't mean we ignored each other, but there was a definite boundary about our church relationship at that point. I couldn't chum around with him quite the same way I might would have if we were only pastor and parishioner. It would probably been overstepping boundaries to attend a weekend retreat with him present, but a bible study at church in a group would probably not overstep boundaries.
Talking to my T about a play we both love is fine. Going to the play together would not be, even in a group. You have to have professional boundaries. This IS a very different relationship than others you have in your life.