Right now, no, we've never argued. I think a lot of that is me being a weenie, not that I've never been angry or irritated. In the past I've been known to love an argument. Maybe this last bout of depression took the joy of that away, who knows. One time I sadly showed up for therapy on the wrong day
. When I showed up and the T wasn't there, after waiting 20 minutes I was very pissed and thought about sending a text. Anyways right before I'm getting ready to go he drives up, apologizes and says he somehow must have confused the day I requested an appointment. Later he told me in a kind way, I couldn't find the email request for today, but I did see one for tomorrow.
I was so glad that I didn't get angry then, haha.
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Originally Posted by someone321
I came to the session empty and disappointed and I told him that I am not sure if I can trust him anymore and that on one hand I want him badly to convince me that I can trust him but on the other hand I knew that he wouldn't do that because if I leave, he'll find another client who'll pay him so why should he put the effort in convincing me to trust him? But he didn't comment on it so I started giving him examples why I do not trust him and why I don't feel his empathy... And then he started disagreeing (btw I always hate when he overtalks me - for first seconds we both talk at the same time but I always give up) and raising his voice and telling me to think and that he was very emotional and angry at that time (and he really was). So probably I did provoke him to argue with me but I didn't do that in purpose - just the effect was so amazing that maybe I should annoy him more often?
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Do you really not trust him or were you just angry at him walking in? I'm just curious why you felt disappointed, or what he needed to do to convince you to trust him that he refused to do. Sometimes we can unknowingly create a reason to get distance when a relationship is getting closer and are feeling vulnerable. There are a number of reasons why you would feel this way depending on the facts and circumstances you know? Like if he really was lacking empathy and treating you badly, your taking revenge for calling him out on this might be a very healthy reaction.