I don't know. When you find out, please let me know. My husband has a very low sex drive and we are not long distance but live together, and he will only have sex maybe once a month. It frustrates the hell out of me yet i cannot do anything about it. I can't force him to do anything he doesn't want to. It is so frustrating but I try to masturbate and think of him, or watch TV to get my mind off of it, or some other activity. But in the end, I am void of what I really wanted. We have gotten into arguments about it. But in the end all I can do is stop trying to initiate and just wait for it to happen some day...