I want to look at this question from another direction. If boundaries were used against a person in the past, to exclude you - i experienced this a lot growing up - then i wanted to make sure i wasnt going to be the victim of boundaries again. I know all about being excluded - what i am uncomfortable with, and what i need real life lessons in, is being included. I didnt even feel included in the t room. Every session for a couple of years, i was afraid to look at the shelves, and i thought, those toys are not for me, they are for other kids. So i would ask, what is the basis of this feeling?