Have you ever been to such a gathering where the "t-client relationship" is put aside for the sake of the intimate nature of the group, or is this hypothetical? You state it as though it were a fact. Just because YOU want to set aside your role as client, it doesn't mean the T would set aside HER role as T. Do you understand what I mean?

Again, I think your T is the best one to discuss this scenario with, not us. I identify with you; I'm not trying to be critical. I would like to be with my T in an intimate setting too, and set aside the normal T-client rules. An ethical T will not put herself in such a setting with a client.