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Old Jan 08, 2014, 12:44 AM
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Hi RT. I don't think we've ever spoken, but nice to meet you. FYI, I'm well-known here at PC for having a T with "questionable," "flexible," "inconsistent" boundaries. Those boundaries have caused both great joy and great pain, but I have managed to find healing despite this. I'm also known for being straightforward sometimes. This is one of those times. Anyway, couple of questions:

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Originally Posted by RTerroni View Post
I don't know if you have been to an multi day intimate gathering before but I have (such as a multi-day Christian gathering among other things) but trust me you are completely cut off from the rest of the world there, in other words it is under a bubble (albeit a much larger one) just like inside the Therapy room.
Why are you focused on this type of scenario? Do you know something about this T already (i.e. you both like Burning Man or Elevate)?

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Originally Posted by RTerroni View Post
I am not trying to change my Therapists point of view, I just want them to accept mine, and I remember that you were the one that told me that discussing appropriate boundaries outside of Therapy isn't so much about if you will actually meet outside of Therapy in real life but rather how you view the Therapist-Client relationship.
You do realize that someone can accept your POV and still disagree with it, right? A lot of people get hung up on that. A T can accept that your opinion about boundaries is valid and still have the exact opposite opinion (and his/her opinion is equally valid). Do you want this T to tell you your opinion is valid, or correct.

IMO, if you lead off with this as a beginning topic in therapy, most T's would probably be wary of you. If I were in your T's spot, I might lean toward an opinion of "stalkerish".
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Thanks for this!
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