Just a comment, but it sounds like you don't want her to force her opinion on you, but you want to force your opinion on her.

That being said, I do get the desire to have a relationship outside of therapy with your T, but it wasn't appropriate in the 1950's, and it's not appropriate now. The "rules" are in place to protect you and the T. What if all her clients wanted to break her boundaries? She would never be able to have a life of her own. If people REALLY care about their T, they will respect their T's boundaries...even if you don't like them.

I have only known my T for 3 months. I love her (not in love). We get along so well. We could honestly be close friends. BUT, she's my T. And while she's my T, she cannot be my friend. BUT...if she stops being my T and it is consentual, we can be friends, but the relationship changes. If you want a T, you have to let her be a T. If you want a friend, you have to look else where. For me, I need my T to be a T. But I have told her that I might want a friendship with her in the future, but I know the whole relationship will change.

And you mentioned that you would see your friend as a dentist. If you're a female, would you be okay with being friends with your gynecologist? What is it, proctologist for male? I don't know if I'd be okay with my friends knowing about my "nether regions". Same thing with therapy. A T will learn over time all your secrets. She is paid to be accepting and help you deal with your issues. But that doesn't mean she agrees with your choices or wants to socialize with you outside of work. Work and social life are usually seperate.

I think this is hard for you because you are genuinely a nice caring person. And you desperately want equal relationships with people. But the nature of therapy is that it's never equal. You feel "connected", but that doesn't mean she feels the same connection. It's like having a crush on someone who just wants to be your friend. When the expectations don't match, the relationship usually falls apart. It's just the way the world works. It's not good/bad, fair/unfair, or rational/irrational. It's a common unspoken language that protects us from possible harm.

Sorry if I'm going off on a tangent. My point is, your feelings are normal. Your thoughts are normal. Your wants/desires are normal. Your expectations are probably unrealistic in 99.999% of healthy therapeutic relationships. I hope that makes a little sense. I'm in no way trying to hurt your feelings nor do I think anyone here wants to. But we also can't lie to you just because you don't like/agree with reality.

I hope that whatever happens, you relationship with your new T turns out to be HEALTHY and BENFICAL to you, and maybe she might be able to help you work on understanding or at least accepting boundaries.