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Originally Posted by Ascension
Sexual preoccupation can be a very complicated thing. Sometimes it is overt. Conscious and conspicuous sexual things, like joking about it a lot, watching porn, finding yourself thinking about various person in commercials, TV shows, movies arousing all the time. Then there is covert or suppressed sexual preoccupation. The over compensation by not objectifying persons as sex objects, having difficulty interacting with person you may find arousing because you are concerned it would be inappropriate. Feeling guilt or shame for sexual arousal. It can be conscious and obvious or hidden and compensatory. In truth most of us have some degree of sexual preoccupation and it becoming more and more prevalent in due to the sexual nature of media.
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First off, I don't blame "the media". The media is a reflection of society. If society didn't put any value in sex, "the media" wouldn't try to market off of it.
The part about your post that confuses me is that I can't figure out where you are saying the line between a healthy amount of sexual focus crosses over into sexual preoccupation. For me, I'm not ashamed of what arouses me, I don't harbor any "sexual guilt". I am attracted to people on TV, I do make sexual jokes all the time, and I find innuendo in basically everything. I also do struggle talking to people I'm attracted to for a bunch of reasons. Is all of that normal? Is it "wrong"? Do I need to try and fix this?