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As I read more of your Conflict Management self-test I was impressed with the possible uses. It was really neat that you got 16 responses and put the % on this thread. I rated myself as a "communicator"--I'd talk to the person I had a conflict with. I was also a negotiator.

It would be interesting to present a group a situation that is likely to arouse conflicts...and let people tell how they tended to handle that situation. The example that came to my mind is the situation where the Governor is ordering all young girlsto get a vaccination which prevents cervical cancer. If I were interacting with someone strongly for or against the Govenor's proposal, I'd ask them why they held their opinion. Like most conflicts, it is helpful to know the underlying reasons, not just are they for or against t.he law. That understanding will surely help you understand their reasoning but it may not help you change their opinion, if you are wanting to do that.

I am a strong believer in the value of understanding the moral values and emotions behind a person's behaviors and opinions. As other posters have said, we are more accepting of others once we know "where they are coming from. " We can learn from each other.

drclay