It may have gone wrong in the past but you are not finished yet. I married when I was 39, after a zillion years of therapy and because of therapy. The new perspective/therapy you will spread to the intense/intimate you too so you won't fail there, you will find someone who wants you to be and can help you be the best you you can be and you'll want to "rescue him right back" to put in Julia Roberts/"Pretty Woman" terms.