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Originally Posted by mixedup_emotions
My T once said in group T that he likes to look at boundaries not as firm lines not to be crossed but rather as a meeting point between two people that can be explored and negotiated. The rigidity etc. provides helpful tools to help navigate the process.
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Exactly and this is how I see them as well.
I think that we primarily have been talking about the real intimate gatherings that me and my Therapist could cross paths at but which I will admit is extremely unlikely (but I do appreciate everyone's viewpoints on because this stuff does race through my mind almost daily) so maybe it is time to take a step back and bring up a scenario that I will be attending (provided I get over this flu that I have
) this Friday and Saturday and that is a motor-sports trade show, which is not an intimate gathering but rather a social gathering:
I think that if I was to see my Therapist at a gathering like that then I would still see them as my Therapist (knowing that the gathering is far from personal and far from cut off from the rest of the world) but would also see as someone who is a big fan of motor-sports as I am. I think that if I saw her there I would definitely like to spend more than just a few minutes discussing things such as what are favorite types of motor racing are (since there are quite a few represented at the event) and who are favorite drivers in them are among other things. [An interesting angle at this event (which I have never seen at any other similar event) is that you get to mark your spot in advance for someone who will later be having an autograph session and comeback right before the signing rater than have to wait in line for the entire duration so it is entirely possible that when I go back to my seat shortly before the session that I could see her in another seat in the line and if I want to I could certainly go over there and not lose my spot in line.] I even think that setting up a tentative meeting spot is also acceptable (i.e. at 1PM on Saturday I will be over at the food concession area if you want to meet there to discuss the trade show) however neither of us would fully commit to being there at that time nor would we give out any personal numbers so if one of us was to not show up than you just move on. In other words at a social (or as I have said before semi-public) event like this I still think that a line between Therapist and Client exists however the line is lighter than it would be had we met at some place like the Supermarket.