Hopefully someone can shed some light on this for me. A lot of my problems stem from having a twin sister who is disabled and growing up with that experience. My mom is very invalidating, and I believe that is because she has always (rightfully) given my sister more thought.

I am struggling now to get to a point with my parents where I can continue to go to them for advice, etc. Everytime I tell either of my parents something related to my mental illness, work, friends, it is always a disagreement and instead of just hearing what I have to say it is a chance for them to voice their opinion and tell me why what I'm deciding or doing is wrong. I know that is what parents do, I'm not expecting them to just stand by. But I just feel like every experience I have with them is so frustrating and invalidating.

I don't know if telling them about my BPD diagnosis is a good idea (would help them understand some of my frustrations more), or a bad idea (they would take the blame). I just feel like i'm constantly telling my mom that they're not doing anything wrong and that I will change my behavior, because obviously I'm the one who is acting out.

Does anyone have any advice or similar experience? Thanks for reading

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Prozac 40mg, Neurontin 400 mg TID, Remeron 45mg

depression, anxiety, borderline, social phobia, ed nos, self injury.