In the end it's up to your T; not any of us. But if you do find yourself at a social event and try to socialize with your T, and she doesn't want to, you have to respect that.

BTW, do you find it interesting that you can differentiate between a ER doc and a T, but not a friend and a T?

Another thing to think about: I'm sure you have boundaries of your own. How would you feel if someone disregarded your boundaries solely because they wanted to. This all is about respecting people for who they are. This isn't about being right or wrong.