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Originally Posted by purple orchid
So, I did it. I told my T that I've become dependent on them. 
His reply was " so, what do you think you should do about it?"
I was a bit baffled but said I can either carry on therapy for ever or quit. Both stupid answers really but I was put on the spot and wasn't expecting it to be thrown back at me so quickly! 
I feel great for getting it out in the open as I had been holding it inside for months 
So, I was wondering what did all you lovely people on PC do to overcome this dependency on your T's and therapy? It has to end eventually right? |
I'm glad you told your T! Good for you. I've never heard that reply/question back from a T, but it's interesting! Did he discuss it anymore after you answered him?
I know you'll get different answers from others. In my case, I've been dependent on a number of Ts. I was able to leave a couple of them successfully, but in other cases my only solution (which was only a temporary solution!) was to see another T and become dependent on that one.
I don't recommend that, but time went on and I've seen my current T for almost 4 years. I'm not sure if dependency/attachment are interchangeable or not, but if you're talking about thinking about your T all the time, and not imagining life without the T, then that's the way it's been for me. However, there is light at the end of my tunnel. Hopefully, for you it won't be as painful as for me. Over and over I've had to realize that my T is NOT going to be a substitute for real life. She's my coach and teacher, but I'm the one who has to get out onto the field and play, WITHOUT her! That fact is finally sinking in, and I'm doing better. She cheers me on, and we have a close relationship, but I'm slowly separating from her. I don't know exactly how I got to this point; it's been difficult. I've had my dreams shattered over and over, until I realized I have to change my dreams so they do not involve my T as the main character. There's a lot out in the world. My T is always going to be inside of me, in my heart, but I'm not going to be dependent on her. (I can't believe I'm writing this!!)