I apologize. I know I wrote I'd back out of this...I just had one question:

If you didn't want any of our opinions, why ask "What are the appropriate boundaries inside and outside of therapy"...?

I think you knew the answer all along. I think you were hoping for some validation (which btw you got a lot of just not the exact kind you wanted). When you use the word "appropriate" your asking for the generic one size fits all answer. Only your T will be able to give you the specific answer. At the very least...look at all the support people are.trying to give you here. You've gotten much more than many others who post for help.

Maybe just take a day and let everything sink in. The reality is: we don't want you getting hurt.