The thing is that if you don't reflect good feelings toward others, they are not going to feel good feelings about you. You may poo hoo the golden rule, but "do unto others what you would have them to do you"....is a much better place to start living your life.

People can sense whey your life is all about you.....& they will tend to stay away because other people don't want to be sucked dry by people like that....even though it may not be the way you are....sometimes the way we come across is the way people think of us as & when we come across as having a negative attitude & a self-centered....I have to fight for my own way in life way.....people are not going to be drawn to that kind of personality...except for others who are also like that......& it can be a pretty miserable life living it that way.

Caring for others while also being careful with the caring......brings more caring people into our own lives......it's about being sincere rather than phoney in living one's life.....& that is definitely something that others are quite aware of when they choose who they want to be around.