((((melissa))))

It sounds as though you have mind up your mind to return to your other T. You've made the list of pros and cons from DBT, that's good. The trick (it sounds like) is looking back upon the Interpersonal Skills. Particularly Self-Respect Effectiveness.

That, to me, sounds like the important aspect. You have done what he asked of you, and he did leave the idea of re-joining T open. That is reassuring! While you may have to wait a little bit, before he can fit you back into his schedule, I believe that he will.

You can do it.