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Old Jan 09, 2014, 04:06 AM
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I am so glad to see that you finally got some much needed help with your family!!

Sorry that you're struggling with figuring out how to talk about the deaths of 2 friends of yours with your parents. Have you ever mentioned it to anyone that you know?? Friends? Church? Are you in therapy? {I'm assuming that you aren't, otherwise you probably would have worked this out with him or her.}

Do you ever have quiet times with your parents? If so, perhaps you could mention it then? Or, maybe after a movie night? Just, some time when you have everyone that you want to be able to participate present....In a relatively quiet moment, say it outright: "My friends, __ and ___ passed away. They were in a car accident, they didn't make it, and I'm really upset." If they're dumbfounded and quiet, continue with telling them how you feel.

You can also use this time to tell them about having such a difficult time managing your test anxiety, you now need some extra help in school. Maybe adding, "Gosh, I am just really having a tough time nowadays. I feel so anxious and I just can't seem to figure out a way to work through it! I did get some help from school." I would recommend that you also open up about how you have been having a difficult time sharing these deep feelings lately. You've been wanting to tell them ~ but didn't know how, when, where, or if you should. Re-state that you're having a tough time, because the now is all that we have some control over.
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