On Tuesday my T told me that he can understand a lot and that he is not angry when I e.g. accuse him for the lack of empathy (he said he's not angry about it because it's just not true ) but there is one thing which makes him very angry and which he cannot understand at all and he doesn't know how to handle it... He cannot stand why I do protect my abusers so much and why I support the whole "system" so much... For me that was a surprise because I think that it is quite simple and obvious, right? I do that because telling others (or any other method for stopping protecting the abusers) won't make me feeling better but it will destroy many other innocent lifes (e.g. families) and it won't help anyone as e.g. one of the abuser is old and another would never hurt anyone else (complicated story). So is it really so difficult to understand why "victims" protect their abusers?