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Originally Posted by sweepy62
Next week is my first transition week with my t and the new t, since my t wants me to introduce myself and partake of the session as well, although she will be doing some talking as well, this what, I will be requesting or saying.
Please feel free to critque or help me reword.
1. You cannot fill my therapists shoes.
2. Dont expect me to accept you with open arms.
3. Dont try and make silly jokes with me to break the ice.
4. Dont offer me any tissues.
5. Dont use any csa words that I dont like (I will let her know).
6.Dont expect me to believe you when you say you are not leaving.
7. Dont expect me to become attached and wear my emotions on my sleeve.
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I agree with the others that this list comes off as very angry. I know you are, but this new T isn't the cause of your anger. So, I'll offer a shot at helping you reword you needs as "I" statements:
1. I really loved my old T and it will be really difficult for me to trust you and attach to you like I did to her.
2.Please give my a lot of space and time to adapt. Trying to cheer me up or if I perceive you as less than genuine, it will just make this transition even more difficult.
3. I have particular trouble with a couple of things:
a. I am turned off by efforts to make me laugh to get on my
good side. Please just give me room.
b. I am bothered when a therapist tries to hand me tissues.
c. I have trouble with certain words associated with CSA
(here you might hand her a list if you don't want to say
those words.)
4. I'm feeling really raw and repeatedly abandoned by therapists,
so I may never be able to trust that you won't leave me.
Think I covered your list, and you've framed these as requests to help you rather than angry restrictions/demands against her.