l try to tell myself that l only want to SI because l am heading for overwhelm, so l try to think about what it is that is bothering me so much. Like "OK l get that things are difficult for me right now as that is why I am getting these urges, but what has happened, what is it that has led to this urge?"

Doesn't always help, but sometimes it can help me pull back.

please keep safe. Soup