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1. no, it is't difficult to understand.
2. even IF someone doesn't understand it, the number of victims and survivors who DON'T report suggest that there is something going on, and even if he doesn't understand it, he can understand that it is a common and protective reaction.
I can understand a T telling a client that his experience is that oftentimes (but not ALWAYS) when a victim starts to talk to others, and tells ______________, that the victim starts to become a survivor BUT that there might be a lot of work that has to go on before a victim can even see how it MIGHT be helpful, and then more time to be prepared to do it, AND sometimes the circusmtances are such that the victim can't ever get there, and that is okay, and they still deserve comfort and empathy. and it doesn't mean they can't work on other, perhaps related, issues. Although there are patterns of behavior in survivors of abuse, each case is different. EAch case has different ripple effects.
No one knows what is best for the victim better than the victim. Others can have things to think about, but NO ONE KNOWS.
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