SeptemberMorn:

I agree with your point, namely, it is not just important to recognize the conflict resolution style that life has given you at this point in life, it is important to learn better ways to resolve conflicts. It might be helpful if you have figured out how you learned better ways...and how you now decide what methods or styles will work with different people or in different situalions. That would be valueable information for all of us. Give it a try.

drclay