Hi, summer. What a good thread regarding a sometimes very difficult subject.

Yes, been there/done that/still do that at times. It's very difficult.

There are certain things that can't happen here no matter how prepared, etc. If this certain thing happens, all you know what breaks loose...if not outside my brain, inside.

Sometimes it's harder to prepare for me because it gives time for knowledge of the act and upset to occur. It's always been better here if it's spontaneous. However, it wouldn't be if hubby weren't so incredibly understanding of the potential for an excuse.

I've just had to be really honest with hubby and thankfully he's understanding. What he decided (for me) is that "I" come to him. And, as a shock to me, sometimes HE had the headache.

It's been the answer here for the last 8 or so years with just a couple of exceptions. Even though I'm rarely triggered there anymore, it's a pattern that we've established which, in turn, is why I think most of the triggers are gone.

KD