Why is divorce coming up at all? Why don't you just go to be with your daughter to help her and tell your husband you'll see him in 6 months? It's his choice not to go. I don't interpret his not going with you as not loving his family. Can't he love all of you and stay where he is? I don't think this has to be the end of a 32 yr marriage (unless you are looking for a reason to get out).