For me, not feeling heard, is a huge need; I'd go out on a limb and say, that it's a huge need of a great many people. You had to send an email just to express, all that is going on in your life, right now, and 2 days later, still nothing. And email, was because he wouldn't sit down and 'listen' to you.

A marriage or any committed romantic relationship, is about needing to feel an intimate connection, camaraderie, a sense of connectedness, and yes, physical intimacy, is a huge factor, as well! To be offended, because you express your feelings? I'd be offended, in turn, for not being offered a safe place to express a sense of humanness and vulnerability.

Good for you, for seeking professional help, to gain some clarity and insight, to help you take necessary steps towards change, whether your h follows suit or not.

One thing, that stood out, was your stating that you've been everything that you were 'supposed to be.' May be, something to look at, as you are getting the help that you need.