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Originally Posted by danvb
I dunno... I'm confused. Are you doing this for your daughter or are you doing this for yourself?
I love my daughter dearly, but there is no way that I would uproot myself and my wife and move 2000 miles across the country to provide day care for my grandchild. I'm sorry, but in my books, that's completely over-the-top and irresponsible. My daughter is a big girl and is responsible for her own life. That includes taking responsibility for figuring out how to make things work when conditions are less than ideal. It's a part of growing up and learning to be an adult. What would she do if grandma and grandpa weren't around to help her out?
If it were up to me and my daughter needed help, I might offer her some assistance in paying for day care, but the idea of moving 2000 miles away from my home so I could take care of my grandchild is completely and utterly ludicrous. I care very deeply for my daughter. But part of my caring is allowing her to stand on her own two feet... Sometimes you have to let your children fail, and as a parent, that's a very hard thing to do. But, I know that I won't always be around, so she needs to learn to take care of herself and to rely on her husband instead of her mom and dad...
Anyway, that's how my wife and I chose to raise our daughter and she's a better person for it.
Dan
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Food for thought, thank you. My daughter is 27 and has an MSN, which comes with some student loans. She has always been very responsible and stood on her own two feet. Right now she makes around 90K a year. Her H is career officer in the Military. Makes about the same.
My Husband and I JUST moved where we are 5 years ago. It is paid for but small. We are not pulling up roots, so to speak, we already did that when HE wanted to.
I have this huge hole in my heart when I am away from my kids. I can't explain it...it just hurts and I am unhappy. So I guess maybe I AM doing this for me too!