Jimi.... I don't hang out in "adult chat" for the more "mature" sex talk because it IS a triggery topic. The coffeehouse is supposed to be FREE OF THAT. Yet some take it over with sex talk and innuendoes so while I partly agree I have the ability to change rooms, where do I go when these same people go to any room I am in with their "adult talk"? There needs to be a place SAFE from it and a specific place FOR it and as the chat rooms are set up to have those zones it is up to others to RESPECT the boundaries Doc John has put in place for that too.

I have survived rape, ok? Sex talk turns me OFF and makes me feel like people are being predators. My closest male friend is gay and not a threat. Since you seem to know WHY it is triggery, I'm putting my FACTS out there.... and if I get ridiculed for it, I will just LEAVE and not come back.

People who HAVE TO DOMINATE things with sex talk in rooms specifically stated it is NOT to occur in there are the sort who will harm a woman offline if given the chance.... they don't respect boundaries... they do what THEY want at everyone else's expense. To be honest, I DO NOT feel safe here and am trying VERY hard to overcome that.

If I can't, I will log out sometime and NOT return. People who FORCE their will on others through dominance and control have those traits in common with rapists and sexual molestors. That is a RED FLAG to me and I don't keep people around me who do that. For me it both a mental and physical safety thing.

Goodnight.