I agree that the goal is not to eliminate conflict. I have heard that in a relationship where there are no fights, it is not a healthy relationship because someone's needs are not being expressed. Here, we also need to be able to express our needs and have them acknowleged and accepted, even though we are often not going to all agree.

We tend to ask why everybody can't just get along. I guess that would be asking someone to stop expressing their needs because someone else is going to disagree. But what I wonder is why we can't see that we are all more alike than we are different. We can find the common ground and meet there, and accept that we don't agree on everything.

I guess that I am a negotiator, and I think that style has some advantages, although I can see advantages in some of the other styles also.

Rap